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What do you do following a loss?

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When I was a wee lad when the Dees would lose a game I would often be very sad and and on occasion would take some posters off my wall and pack a backpack and tell my parents I was running away from home. I never made it beyond the driveway but I put on quite a show.

Unfortunately now I live alone and have a mortgage, so the threat of running away does not have the same dramatic impact and I would only upset my cat, and even then I am not too sure it would mind too much.

Always find it interesting how we re-act following a loss and wondered where others lie.

Some options include

The Masochistic Re-watch

Do you re-watch the game (or at least extended highlights and other media) and try analyse what went wrong or where the game was won or lost. Are you searching for learnings?

Blank Space

Do you just move on to next week and not ignore it all until the next week.

Not just with the Dees but I find myself not listening to podcasts after a loss (Sorry lads!)

There are further options - such as the venting on a forum but what do you do following a loss?

 

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    Meditate on the fact that each individual out there (both sides) are working really hard for themselves and their teammates - and aren't thinking of me, whether they win or lose. I then meditate on the impermanence of everything, the victories, and the failures...of football and of life.

    When I was a kid @roy11, I'd go outside  post loss and transform into Jimmy Stynes who'd then ruck  it to Garry Lyon who'd handball it out to Ricky Jackson (sometimes Guy Rigoni a few years later)... and stab a little 20metre kick through a couple of young saplings on the farm... good therapy...

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    Look at the positives, as they are always some if you look hard enough. No need to waste your existence on negativity and irrationality from the emotion of a loss, always the next game.

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    8 minutes ago, Engorged Onion said:

    Meditate on the fact that each individual out there (both sides) are working really hard for themselves and their teammates - and aren't thinking of me, whether they win or lose. I then meditate on the impermanence of everything, the victories, and the failures...of football and of life.

    When I was a kid @roy11, I'd go outside  post loss and transform into Jimmy Stynes who'd then ruck  it to Garry Lyon who'd handball it out to Ricky Jackson (sometimes Guy Rigoni a few years later)... and stab a little 20metre kick through a couple of young saplings on the farm... good therapy...

    If only today Tracca could've transformed into Tracca who'd tap it to Tracca who'd handball to Tracca who'd then stab a kick to Tracca who'd kick a goal!

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    Drink Heavily and avoid the media, friends and family

    If we win I do the same but don’t avoid the media

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    1 hour ago, whatwhat say what said:

    watch the post-game interviews, read demonland, watch the vfl, read demonland, listen to the  @Demonland @binman and @george_on_the_outer podcast, read demonland, wait impatiently for the next game

    and a whole lotta sulking

    This + grumble to any poor sod who has to listen to me about whatever pet theory I've adopted as the reason for the loss!

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    Always after a loss, I look at the next 4-5 games and try to predict how many me lose/win. Got us 4-0 the next 4.....hopefully 🤣

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    For those unaware, cats are actually highly emotionally tuned. If you're feeling down, they will often come and give you some cuddles. I don't have a cat, so have to pop some bubble wrap instead. 

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    I slept well last night. 

    I'm much better dealing with losses now than I was a few years ago. I used to struggle to get to sleep after a bad loss.

    I practice gratitude. Think of all the luck I've had in life. puts things in perspective.

    And i avoid the media after a loss (when we win i lap it all up). no point rerunning or ruminating on something that can't be changed

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    I try to accept that  it will take a few days…much longer for a final. It’s a slow process to emerge.

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    It’s crazy that it had this effect on us, this game

    I mean there are people literally starving and being bombed and there is so much gnashing of teeth over a silly game 

    Just blargh

    I’m going to grout the kids bathroom shower and play golf to fix thing

    blargh

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    I recommend watching the 2021 Grand Final..

    I have even inserted a laugh track near the end of the 3rd

     

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    2 minutes ago, IRW said:

    I recommend watching the 2021 Grand Final..

    I have even inserted a laugh track near the end of the 3rd

     

    The grand final is starting to hurt now. I can't deal with the fact we won it in Perth, then somehow haven't won a final in Melbourne since. And looks like we're on the same trajectory again.

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    Putting money in the swear jar.  Seriously lost it when the JVR tackle was given a blues free.  
    Those [censored] umpires screwed us all night.  Hard to lose.  Especially losing to Carltank.  Again a lose to them.  Heartbreaking.   

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    1 hour ago, BDA said:

    I slept well last night. 

    I'm much better dealing with losses now than I was a few years ago. I used to struggle to get to sleep after a bad loss.

    I practice gratitude. Think of all the luck I've had in life. puts things in perspective.

    And i avoid the media after a loss (when we win i lap it all up). no point rerunning or ruminating on something that can't be changed

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    Feel flat.  Trouble sleeping.

    Will watch a replay of the first quarter (ouch)

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    1 hour ago, seventyfour said:

    The grand final is starting to hurt now. I can't deal with the fact we won it in Perth, then somehow haven't won a final in Melbourne since. And looks like we're on the same trajectory again.

    I feel the same

     

    Last night I had a beer afterwards with my carlton mate and we laughed about the fact that at least we are decent now and not utter trash like we were for 10 years +

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    What else? Curl up in fetal position and hope its just a bad dream.

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    Great read.

    Thanks, Comrades.

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    Think about how I got thru the loss to the Pies in last year’s final, and have been dead inside ever since. 

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