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What do you do following a loss?

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3 hours ago, BDA said:

I slept well last night. 

I'm much better dealing with losses now than I was a few years ago. I used to struggle to get to sleep after a bad loss.

I practice gratitude. Think of all the luck I've had in life. puts things in perspective.

And i avoid the media after a loss (when we win i lap it all up). no point rerunning or ruminating on something that can't be changed

I think the losses of the past hurt more because there was an element of 'Are we ever going to win a flag in my lifetime?' attached to each loss. Some false dawns didn't help that feeling.  

Now we're  solid and having competitive losses which are a little different to dissect for a few reasons - You can find yourself falling down 'what if?' rabbit holes but also the finals ramifications etc.  As @seventyfour eluded to with the Perth GF, the mood somewhat shifting with the  'am i ever going to get to go to a winning grand final in my lifetime' paranoia slowly kicking in in with the passing of time . Could be worse though -  I have mates who go for St Kilda!

 

I'm also a bachelor roy but unlike you have no cat for company. If last night were a Friday I'd be getting out on the bike early doors and punching out 40-50km or going for a swim. The combination of coffee, physical exhaustion and endorphin release are my best friends after a crushing loss. Only then might I venture onto DL to make sense of what happened which I also find cathartic. 

A couple of extra stubbies.

 

I used to live quite close to a Collingwood player. After a loss watching my dog take an early morning [censored] on his nature strip was particularly cathartic.


3 hours ago, Jaded No More said:

Think about how I got thru the loss to the Pies in last year’s final, and have been dead inside ever since. 

I hope there’s someone giving you a lot of hugs.

I stew for about 24hrs. 

Then look to the next game with optimism until Goody makes changes to the lineup which I rarely agree with, but he makes me look stupid most of the time, thank heavens.

I was never a player or coach so I've done Aussie rules a huge favour. 

 

It has changed over time according to coach, mostly.

Daniher era: Well, that's disappointing but anything could happen next week and next season.

Bailey era: This is part of the hard yards of rebuilding and we have a bright era ahead of us.

Neeld era: Life is pain, we are here to suffer and must embrace the void.

Roos era: This is part of the hard yards of rebuilding and we have a bright era ahead of us.

Goodwin era:

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I go outside and hug my goats and pat my donkeys and horse. They seem to understand my grief 🥲

When I woke up this morning after a troubled sleep, I asked my husband if that really happened or was it just a nightmare. When he told me yes we lost by one point, I just pulled the doona back over my head.


Short answer: Cry

Long answer: Cry a lot

That was hard loss to swallow because I felt like we lost it three times.

The start of lack of thereof.

The umpires.

And we just missed out by a point.

Ps Blues fans are shockers with their booing and free kick entitlement.

I wonder if the free differential is a result of big crowds swaying the umpires like the dobs we saw.

2 hours ago, Sir Why You Little said:

Avoid any media coverage till next Thursday 

Avoid any media coverage. Period. 

Takes a little while to get to sleep but over it by the next morning. That said did see a bloke in a Carlton cap while walking to the pub at lunchtime and my fist did get a bit twitchy.

3 hours ago, Roost it far said:

I hope there’s someone giving you a lot of hugs.

I have the cutest dog in the whole entire world, so all is good 😍


13 hours ago, Skuit said:

For those unaware, cats are actually highly emotionally tuned. If you're feeling down, they will often come and give you some cuddles. I don't have a cat, so have to pop some bubble wrap instead. 

My cats are too busy sleeping 22 hours a day to come over for a cuddle post loss.


8 hours ago, Jaded No More said:

Think about how I got thru the loss to the Pies in last year’s final, and have been dead inside ever since. 

Same

Put some Tool on

Dead insiiiiiiiide, dead insiiiiiiide

 

It depends entirely on the day of the week that the loss occurs. The earlier it is, especially if it's a Thursday night, the more I curse the AFL. 

Mind you, I detest Thursday night football (other than ANZAC Day eve or on any Thursday before a public holiday - which means the Thursday before Good Friday), so I'm already angry with the AFL anyway, whether we win or lose.  

8 hours ago, Fritta and Turner said:

Will watch a replay of the first quarter (ouch)

How can you do that to yourself?

The coaching staff will have enough trouble trying to watch it, but at least they get paid for it.

 

Reading.  David Bsldacci, a calamity of souls.  His new book.  Stuff the footy 

1 hour ago, greenwaves said:

I don't have an unhealthy attachment to football so I move on straight away.

I do.

You make it sound like a bad thing. 😁


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