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  On 09/05/2024 at 20:28, BDA said:

I slept well last night. 

I'm much better dealing with losses now than I was a few years ago. I used to struggle to get to sleep after a bad loss.

I practice gratitude. Think of all the luck I've had in life. puts things in perspective.

And i avoid the media after a loss (when we win i lap it all up). no point rerunning or ruminating on something that can't be changed

I think the losses of the past hurt more because there was an element of 'Are we ever going to win a flag in my lifetime?' attached to each loss. Some false dawns didn't help that feeling.  

Now we're  solid and having competitive losses which are a little different to dissect for a few reasons - You can find yourself falling down 'what if?' rabbit holes but also the finals ramifications etc.  As @seventyfour eluded to with the Perth GF, the mood somewhat shifting with the  'am i ever going to get to go to a winning grand final in my lifetime' paranoia slowly kicking in in with the passing of time . Could be worse though -  I have mates who go for St Kilda!

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    I'm also a bachelor roy but unlike you have no cat for company. If last night were a Friday I'd be getting out on the bike early doors and punching out 40-50km or going for a swim. The combination of coffee, physical exhaustion and endorphin release are my best friends after a crushing loss. Only then might I venture onto DL to make sense of what happened which I also find cathartic. 

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    A couple of extra stubbies.

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    I used to live quite close to a Collingwood player. After a loss watching my dog take an early morning [censored] on his nature strip was particularly cathartic.

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      On 09/05/2024 at 23:07, Jaded No More said:

    Think about how I got thru the loss to the Pies in last year’s final, and have been dead inside ever since. 

    I hope there’s someone giving you a lot of hugs.

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    I stew for about 24hrs. 

    Then look to the next game with optimism until Goody makes changes to the lineup which I rarely agree with, but he makes me look stupid most of the time, thank heavens.

    I was never a player or coach so I've done Aussie rules a huge favour. 

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    It has changed over time according to coach, mostly.

    Daniher era: Well, that's disappointing but anything could happen next week and next season.

    Bailey era: This is part of the hard yards of rebuilding and we have a bright era ahead of us.

    Neeld era: Life is pain, we are here to suffer and must embrace the void.

    Roos era: This is part of the hard yards of rebuilding and we have a bright era ahead of us.

    Goodwin era:

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    I go outside and hug my goats and pat my donkeys and horse. They seem to understand my grief 🥲

    When I woke up this morning after a troubled sleep, I asked my husband if that really happened or was it just a nightmare. When he told me yes we lost by one point, I just pulled the doona back over my head.

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    Short answer: Cry

    Long answer: Cry a lot

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    That was hard loss to swallow because I felt like we lost it three times.

    The start of lack of thereof.

    The umpires.

    And we just missed out by a point.

    Ps Blues fans are shockers with their booing and free kick entitlement.

    I wonder if the free differential is a result of big crowds swaying the umpires like the dobs we saw.

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    Takes a little while to get to sleep but over it by the next morning. That said did see a bloke in a Carlton cap while walking to the pub at lunchtime and my fist did get a bit twitchy.

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      On 10/05/2024 at 02:48, Roost it far said:

    I hope there’s someone giving you a lot of hugs.

    I have the cutest dog in the whole entire world, so all is good 😍

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    Eat my bodyweight in Chocolate

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      On 09/05/2024 at 17:46, Skuit said:

    For those unaware, cats are actually highly emotionally tuned. If you're feeling down, they will often come and give you some cuddles. I don't have a cat, so have to pop some bubble wrap instead. 

    My cats are too busy sleeping 22 hours a day to come over for a cuddle post loss.

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      On 09/05/2024 at 23:07, Jaded No More said:

    Think about how I got thru the loss to the Pies in last year’s final, and have been dead inside ever since. 

    Same

    Put some Tool on

    Dead insiiiiiiiide, dead insiiiiiiide

     

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    It depends entirely on the day of the week that the loss occurs. The earlier it is, especially if it's a Thursday night, the more I curse the AFL. 

    Mind you, I detest Thursday night football (other than ANZAC Day eve or on any Thursday before a public holiday - which means the Thursday before Good Friday), so I'm already angry with the AFL anyway, whether we win or lose.  

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    Reading.  David Bsldacci, a calamity of souls.  His new book.  Stuff the footy 

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      On 10/05/2024 at 06:41, greenwaves said:

    I don't have an unhealthy attachment to football so I move on straight away.

    I do.

    You make it sound like a bad thing. 😁

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