Jump to content

  • IMPORTANT: PLEASE READ BEFORE POSTING

    Posting unsubstantiated rumours on this website is strictly forbidden.

    Demonland has made the difficult decision to not permit this platform to be used to discuss & debate the off-field issues relating to the Melbourne Football Club including matters currently being litigated between the Club & former Board members, board elections, the issue of illicit drugs in footy, the culture at the club & the personal issues & allegations against some of our players & officials ...

    We do not take these issues & this decision lightly & of course we believe that these serious matters affecting the club we love & are so passionate about are worthy of discussion & debate & I wish we could provide a place where these matters can be discussed in a civil & respectful manner.

    However these discussions unfortunately invariably devolve into areas that may be defamatory, libelous, spread unsubstantiated rumours & can effect the mental health of those involved. Even discussion & debate of known facts or media reports can lead to finger pointing, blame & personal attacks.

    The repercussion is that these discussions can open this website, it’s owners & it’s users to legal action & may result in this website being forced to shutdown.

    Our moderating team are all volunteers & cannot moderate the forum 24/7 & as a consequence problematic content that contravenes our rules & standards may go unnoticed for some time before it can be removed.

    We reserve the right to delete posts that offend against our above policy & indeed, to ban posters who are repeat offenders or who breach our code of conduct.

    WE HAVE BUILT A FANTASTIC ONLINE COMMUNITY AT DEMONLAND OVER THE PAST 23 YEARS & WE WOULD LIKE TO CONTINUE TO BE ABLE TO DISCUSS THE CLUB WE LOVE & ARE SO PASSIONATE ABOUT.

    Thank you for your continued support & understanding. Go Dees.


Mitch at the Cats


Still Waiting

Recommended Posts

Ok, you missed the point again.

I'm talking about the physical surroundings, the particular places, not the general environment of an AFL club.

Ill leave it at this.

I absolutely understand what you are saying.

I think that a treatment has been followed with the change of surroundings that is standard practice whilst ignoring the biggest issue.

Time will tell.

Link to comment
Share on other sites

In my circles depression is not looked upon well, it's like playing the soft card or throwing in the towel. A typical response when depression is mentioned if talking about someone is "give him a cup of concrete"

He talked about 'his circles'. What would you know about his circles?

Isn't that enough?

  • Like 2
Link to comment
Share on other sites

I'm not sure why we must connect Mitch's depression issues with his ultimate decision.

Like most, I have had people close to me suffer from depression and I wish Mitch all the best on his recovery.

Like most, I struggle with the decisions he made and behaviors around the decision. I am not a mental health professional but I cannot agree with the advice he was given. The number one driver for him leaving being a "fresh start" doesn't sit well with me. I could agree with this logic if our club was the rabble it had been under the likes of CS but the MFC from a "health" perspective has never been in a better place and is moving forward. It could almost be considered a new club. AFL is a pressure cooker and it wont be any easier at Geelong where I believe the pressure to perform will be greater than it may have been at the MFC.

For these reasons I wish Mitch well for his ongoing recovery from his health issues and at the same time say that the decisions you have made surrounding you future will forever be a stain on your reputation.

Good post, I agree substantially - however my position is such that the advice he was given was not only poor with regard to the Geelong move, but the very move of retiring from Melbourne in the first place was also a stinker. As I said at the time - to be howled at by muppets of course - he should have toughed out his issues in a positive way instead of running away from them. I called it and said he would rethink his decision in time, but I had no inkling that he would knife by us going to another club. That is the part of it that is inexecusable regardless of ANY other information surrounding his story or the topic of depression in general.

Link to comment
Share on other sites

From what I've heard and read, the "fresh start" approach is a common treatment and is not about the current environment being a bad one, it's about removing yourself from the surroundings you were in when you had depression. So they're not saying it's a matter of saying MFC and it's performances contributing to it, they're saying let's take the person out of the surroundings that hold the memories of that time.

Can't understand how you seemingly sympathise with his condition, and then say his decisions will "stain his reputation".

even if that's a commonly held position, it may be appropriate for your 'average Joe' - in MC's case he was provided a vast amount of financial and emotional support from a great number of people, so the 'change of scenery' approach has a very nasty side effect, which is knifing all these people. Anyone with a brain (and/or soul) would realise that the 'change of scenery' method in this particular case was wildly inappropriate, but obviously MC and/or his advisor(s) felt differently - which is why there has been doubt cast on his entire story and motivations.

Link to comment
Share on other sites

Good post, I agree substantially - however my position is such that the advice he was given was not only poor with regard to the Geelong move, but the very move of retiring from Melbourne in the first place was also a stinker. As I said at the time - to be howled at by muppets of course - he should have toughed out his issues in a positive way instead of running away from them. I called it and said he would rethink his decision in time, but I had no inkling that he would knife by us going to another club. That is the part of it that is inexecusable regardless of ANY other information surrounding his story or the topic of depression in general.

Precisely. What's more, the fish bowl that is Geelong, will arc up the heat in the pressure cooker which already exists in any AFL environment.

Link to comment
Share on other sites

I always click on this thread with expectation, but leave empty after failing to read that Clark has been savagely mauled by a wild pig or has blown out both ACLs in a freak Segway accident. This thread needs a "Days since a Mitch Clark injury" count in the title so I know whether to enter or not.

  • Like 3
Link to comment
Share on other sites


Good post, I agree substantially - however my position is such that the advice he was given was not only poor with regard to the Geelong move, but the very move of retiring from Melbourne in the first place was also a stinker. As I said at the time - to be howled at by muppets of course - he should have toughed out his issues in a positive way instead of running away from them. I called it and said he would rethink his decision in time, but I had no inkling that he would knife by us going to another club. That is the part of it that is inexecusable regardless of ANY other information surrounding his story or the topic of depression in general.

Agree 100%

Mitch has spent his whole career "running away" Heard Michael Voss talk about this last year.

Not a person i would trust.

I still believe what my club source told me last year...

  • Like 2
Link to comment
Share on other sites

Not doing much ATM so came up with a conspiracy theory, for fun.

If the Doctor as said on here was a MFC referral and if we had decided for whatever reason, we wanted to trade MC, what if in a casual chat with the Doctor, Roos or someone at the club, suggested that a fresh start would be the best thing for MC. Without discussing his client's actual condition, but bearing in mind that he was referred by us, we would be able to have a general discussion about his future football playing capacity. A few suggestions, such as he had a lot of baggage here, could be enough for the fresh start scenario to have evolved, with that seemingly being the best thing for MC in playing AFL football again. Taking that on board, the Doctor could have agreed that a fresh start was the best for MC. We then traded him when he said he wanted to play again, but needed a fresh start.

Then again, I could have too much time on my hands, BUT, it is not an impossible scenario.

  • Like 3
Link to comment
Share on other sites

In my circles depression is not looked upon well, it's like playing the soft card or throwing in the towel. A typical response when depression is mentioned if talking about someone is "give him a cup of concrete"

I think we have all been through hard times and anyone of us could give into it.

Sometimes it can be seen as someone only caring about themselves instead of caring about others.

Let's be honest, Clark going to Geelong is never going to sit well with the majority of Melbourne supporters.

I have clinical depression. Diagnosed by multiple doctors.

The stigma associated with this condition is not helped by people in your "circles" JVF. In fact, it is the very reason I don't tell many people. It makes things very hard, because when I experience a depressive episode and need to miss a social event or can't deliver on a promise for someone, I need to make up a flimsy excuse. I shouldn't have to. My condition, like any other medical condition, is justification enough. But I have to be careful who I tell about it because some will judge me "soft" and tell me to "suck it up".

Honestly, being told your'e soft while in the middle of a low is crushing. I spend considerable time during depressive episodes working on my CBT (cognitive behavioural therapy) to prevent it spiralling further out of control. When in this state, any insult, not matter how minor, can be devastating to my CBT and further undermine the self-confidence it's designed to prevent eroding. It's easier to just not tell people than risk a blow like that.

It's hard to explain to people, because from the outside I just look "vacant" or "sad", and an accusation of "soft" doesn't sound that harsh. I assure you, on the inside, it's not that simple.

As for the environment argument, it differs because each person's triggers are different. Some people's environments are destructive, some are supportive. I had a mix of both and had to eliminate one and focus on the other until I had the tools to properly balance my life.

Clinical depression is real. People in your circles make it worse.

Fortunately you seem to be in the minority, judging from other posters here.

Go Dees.

Edited by Choke
  • Like 23
Link to comment
Share on other sites

Snide remarks like this really are pathetic. If you disagree with the poster's POV why don't you discuss it with him instead of throwing a quick jab and leaving the room.

If I have left the room - who are you talking to?

And I don't really know what JVF was saying - does he agree with his Neanderthalic mates and their views on depression or is simply relaying what a great deal of people think about the issue?

Frankly, I cannot say what is going in Mitch Clark's head but as someone close to one who suffers from anxiety - I know that it is not a simple issue, and nor one that can be easily defined or dismissed.

And probably one that Land should steer clear of discussing in any depth, lest us reach lower depths...

Link to comment
Share on other sites

Not doing much ATM so came up with a conspiracy theory, for fun.

If the Doctor as said on here was a MFC referral and if we had decided for whatever reason, we wanted to trade MC, what if in a casual chat with the Doctor, Roos or someone at the club, suggested that a fresh start would be the best thing for MC. Without discussing his client's actual condition, but bearing in mind that he was referred by us, we would be able to have a general discussion about his future football playing capacity. A few suggestions, such as he had a lot of baggage here, could be enough for the fresh start scenario to have evolved, with that seemingly being the best thing for MC in playing AFL football again. Taking that on board, the Doctor could have agreed that a fresh start was the best for MC. We then traded him when he said he wanted to play again, but needed a fresh start.

Then again, I could have too much time on my hands, BUT, it is not an impossible scenario.

Yes you do have too much time on your hands however it is a perfectly good conspiracy theory.

  • Like 1
Link to comment
Share on other sites

If I have left the room - who are you talking to?

And I don't really know what JVF was saying - does he agree with his Neanderthalic mates and their views on depression or is simply relaying what a great deal of people think about the issue?

Frankly, I cannot say what is going in Mitch Clark's head but as someone close to one who suffers from anxiety - I know that it is not a simple issue, and nor one that can be easily defined or dismissed.

And probably one that Land should steer clear of discussing in any depth, lest us reach lower depths...

Agreed RPFC. However, I think most reasonable people on here would not begin to second guess MC's condition or his road to recovery. To my mind, what is only in question here, is the apparent advice he seems to have received during his illness and recovery. First a "retirement', with a subsequent trade to another club. As I have said on another post, any AFL environment these days carries with it extreme pressure for all involved. My only question is, why would you choose to go to the last bastian of true AFL parochialism in Victoria, which is the town itself - Geelong? A place where the majority of the population rely on the "local' footy club to float its morale, while it's industries close down, leaving many out of work and subject to depression themselves.

A place where solitude, privacy and any form of anonymity is nigh on impossible for a Geelong player. I do not profess to have the first idea of what sort of change of environment would be beneficial, but it just seems to me that Geelong, of all places, would not be ideal in such circumstances.

Edited by iv'a worn smith
  • Like 1
Link to comment
Share on other sites

if we had decided for whatever reason, we wanted to trade MC

this keeps coming up but I have seen no poster substantiate what this possible reason could be. It is has been widely agreed, and confirmed by Roos himself, that MC was our best player perhaps bar Nathan Jones. His peak form for us was sensational and I cannot entertain a scenario where we would have WANTED him to leave.

Link to comment
Share on other sites

this keeps coming up but I have seen no poster substantiate what this possible reason could be. It is has been widely agreed, and confirmed by Roos himself, that MC was our best player perhaps bar Nathan Jones. His peak form for us was sensational and I cannot entertain a scenario where we would have WANTED him to leave.

Very confident he was not up to it physically or mentally?

Link to comment
Share on other sites

surely worth the risk though. He is a genuine KPF goalkicker, It is hard to imagine a more required type of player for this football club at the moment.

I have no idea C and B just suggesting a reason.

Link to comment
Share on other sites


this keeps coming up but I have seen no poster substantiate what this possible reason could be. It is has been widely agreed, and confirmed by Roos himself, that MC was our best player perhaps bar Nathan Jones. His peak form for us was sensational and I cannot entertain a scenario where we would have WANTED him to leave.

I've theorised that when Roos realised what Clark and his manager had been doing since his "retirement" (shopping him around to other clubs, using MFC fitness guys to recover with no intention of coming back to the MFC), he instantly became persona non grata. MC transparently used this fact as an excuse to fans asking why he left ("But.. but.. I wasn't wanted!"), despite the fact this was a direct result of his and his manager's actions. I doubt the club had much interest in forcing him to stay after he showed his true colours (not dissimilar to GWS offloading Boyd after his manager pulled that stunt with the Bulldogs).

Plus, as evidenced by yet another calf injury last week, he's not a durable player. Roos likes durable players. Does anyone here actually think MC would come close to completing this year's MFC pre-season?

Roos consistently talking up Mitch as our best player was likely just a strategic ploy to ensure we weren't dudded in a trade. If he'd come out calling MC a snake who betrayed us, etc. other clubs would've offered jack shizen in return.

  • Like 2
Link to comment
Share on other sites

MC transparently used this fact as an excuse to fans asking why he left ("But.. but.. I wasn't wanted!"), despite the fact this was a direct result of his and his manager's actions.

Do you know this as fact Lamashtu? Just curious to know who MC actually said this to and where his manager stated as fact that he was unwanted at Melbourne. Is there an interview or article you can link here? I'd genuinely like to know, as all I've ever heard about this has been (at best) speculative hearsay. Cheers

  • Like 1
Link to comment
Share on other sites

Do you know this as fact Lamashtu? Just curious to know who MC actually said this to and where his manager stated as fact that he was unwanted at Melbourne. Is there an interview or article you can link here? I'd genuinely like to know, as all I've ever heard about this has been (at best) speculative hearsay. Cheers

What constitutes "facts" on these forums is often known in other circles as "chinese whispers".

  • Like 3
Link to comment
Share on other sites

As I said at the time - to be howled at by muppets of course - he should have toughed out his issues in a positive way instead of running away from them. I called it and said he would rethink his decision in time, but I had no inkling that he would knife by us going to another club.

I don't understand how you can think that the fact that MC has got himself well enough to recommence an AFL career makes your assertion (bolded above) correct. I would have thought the opposite is true if anything. That's to say there is every chance that if he simply, in true Aussie bloke fashion, tried to 'tough it out' and stayed put his mental health might have got much worse, any other issues in his life might have got worse and he may have ended up quitting (or being fired) and never return to footy.

I am guessing, contrary to your views that he would rethink his decision to retire, that MC and those who care about him most likely think he made exactly the right call.

Supposition of course but he presumably got professional advice that retiring was the best thing he could for his mental health. I very much doubt that outside of forum posters he would have received any advice from trained professional to 'tough it out'. A quick glance at the Beyondblue website linked above would demonstrate that such strategies are likely in fact to make things much worse. Toughing it out is the very reason so many Australian men suffer from depression.

And of course the less said the better about characterizing him retiring from footy to get treatment as running away from his problem (as opposed to actually addressing it which is what he has done).

The fact he has chosen to recommence his career at GFC is completely irrelevant to the any discussion about his choice to retire.

  • Like 5
Link to comment
Share on other sites

I have clinical depression. Diagnosed by multiple doctors.

The stigma associated with this condition is not helped by people in your "circles" JVF. In fact, it is the very reason I don't tell many people. It makes things very hard, because when I experience a depressive episode and need to miss a social event or can't deliver on a promise for someone, I need to make up a flimsy excuse. I shouldn't have to. My condition, like any other medical condition, is justification enough. But I have to be careful who I tell about it because some will judge me "soft" and tell me to "suck it up".

Honestly, being told your'e soft while in the middle of a low is crushing. I spend considerable time during depressive episodes working on my CBT (cognitive behavioural therapy) to prevent it spiralling further out of control. When in this state, any insult, not matter how minor, can be devastating to my CBT and further undermine the self-confidence it's designed to prevent eroding. It's easier to just not tell people than risk a blow like that.

It's hard to explain to people, because from the outside I just look "vacant" or "sad", and an accusation of "soft" doesn't sound that harsh. I assure you, on the inside, it's not that simple.

As for the environment argument, it differs because each person's triggers are different. Some people's environments are destructive, some are supportive. I had a mix of both and had to eliminate one and focus on the other until I had the tools to properly balance my life.

Clinical depression is real. People in your circles make it worse.

Fortunately you seem to be in the minority, judging from other posters here.

Go Dees.

All power to you choke, well done.

I have been fortunate to have never suffered from depression, so my understanding is limited. But I applaud you, albeit on a forum to come out.

We non sufferers need to have more compassion.

Although simplistic, depression can be seen like a chronic bad back. Because the problem cannot be easily seen or understood sympathy and understanding is limited.

I hope your battles with depression include more wins than losses. Talking about issues helps all of us to improve.

  • Like 3
Link to comment
Share on other sites

Guest
This topic is now closed to further replies.
  • Recently Browsing   0 members

    • No registered users viewing this page.
  • Demonland Forums  

  • Match Previews, Reports & Articles  

    PREGAME: Rd 10 vs West Coast Eagles

    The Demons have a 10 day break before they head on the road to Perth to take on the West Coast Eagles at Optus Stadium on Sunday. Who comes in and who goes out?

    Demonland
    Demonland |
    Melbourne Demons 24

    PODCAST: Rd 09 vs Carlton

    The Demonland Podcast will air LIVE on Sunday, 12th May @ 8:30pm. Join George, Binman & I as we analyse the Demons loss at the MCG against the Blues in the Round 09. You questions and comments are a huge part of our podcast so please post anything you want to ask or say below and we'll give you a shout out on the show. If you would like to leave us a voicemail please call 03 9016 3666 and don't worry no body answers so you don't have to talk to a human. Listen & Chat LIVE:

    Demonland
    Demonland |
    Melbourne Demons 5

    VOTES: Rd 09 vs Carlton

    Last week Captain Max Gawn consolidated his lead over reigning champion Christian Petracca in the Demonland Player of the Year Award. Steven May, Jake Lever, Jack Viney & Clayton Oliver make up the Top 5. Your votes for the loss against the Blues. 6, 5, 4, 3, 2, 1.

    Demonland
    Demonland |
    Melbourne Demons 20

    POSTGAME: Rd 09 vs Carlton

    The Demons were blown out of the water in the first quarter and clawed their way back into the contest but it was a case of too little too late as they lost another close one to Carlton losing by 1 point at the MCG.  

    Demonland
    Demonland |
    Melbourne Demons 281

    GAMEDAY: Rd 09 vs Carlton

    It's Game Day and the Demons are once again headlining another blockbuster at the MCG to kick off the round of footy. The Dees take on the Blues and have the opportunity to win their third game on the trot to solidify a spot in the Top 4 in addition to handing the Blues their third consecutive defeat to bundle them out of the Top 8.

    Demonland
    Demonland |
    Melbourne Demons 959

    MELBOURNE BUSINESS by The Oracle

    In days of old, this week’s Thursday night AFL match up between the Demons and the Blues would be framed on the basis of the need to redress the fact that Carlton “stole” last year’s semi final away from Melbourne and with it, their hopes for the premiership.  A hot gospelling coach might point out to his charges that they were the better team on the night in all facets and that poor kicking for goal and a couple of lapses at the death cost them what was rightfully theirs. Moreover, now was

    Demonland
    Demonland |
    Match Previews 1

    UNDER THE PUMP by KC from Casey

    The Casey Demons have been left languishing near the bottom of the VFL table after suffering a 32-point defeat at the hands of stand alone club Williamstown at Casey Fields on Sunday. The Demons suffered a major setback before the game even started when AFL listed players Ben Brown, Marty Hore and Josh Schache were withdrawn from the selected side. Only Schache was confirmed as an injury replacement, the other two held over as possible injury replacements for Melbourne’s Thursday night fixt

    Demonland
    Demonland |
    Casey Articles

    THE MEANING OF FOOTY by Whispering Jack

    Throughout history various philosophers have grappled with the meaning of life. Aristotle, Aquinas, Kant, Nietzsche, Schopenhauer and a multitude of authors of diverse religious texts all tried. As society became more complex, the question became attached to specific endeavours in life even including sporting pursuits where such questions arose among our game’s commentariat as, “what is the meaning of football”? Melbourne coach Simon Goodwin must be tired of dealing with such a dilemma but,

    Demonland
    Demonland |
    Match Reports 1

    PREGAME: Rd 09 vs Carlton

    The Demons have just a 5 day break until they are back at the MCG to face the Blues who are on the verge of 3 straight defeats on Thursday Night. Who comes in and who goes out?

    Demonland
    Demonland |
    Melbourne Demons 241
  • Tell a friend

    Love Demonland? Tell a friend!

×
×
  • Create New...