On 26/10/2020 at 02:43, Half forward flank said:

Its a lot like the player who retaliates on here. Always the one who stands accused. Perhaps mods should look for the posters who continually snipe at every comment made by people they have disagreed with in the past. DL is not a welcoming place for newbies. It could all be solved by having people use their real names Now that would be a step forward. It would be also interesting to have a DL lunch where people are unknown. I guarantee the tone would be a lot more respectful.

Life is what you make it. 

I am assuming I am one of the people this notice is directed to. If so I would like to state that I am not here to troll. I may have different standards of what I am prepared to accept from this Club than others after supporting for 56 years. That is not meant as to say it gives me a right to be special or negative only that I am less tolerant for optimism by simply going with the status quo these days. if that has offended some people particularly our younger supporterts, I apologise generally and will personally if you think it is warranted. I will give myself a break as it is all a bit heated and people have taken and set positions. I remain a Demon faithful and doubt anyone will find a post where I criticize the players. I hope Skuit has a change of heart. 

  On 26/10/2020 at 07:09, Half forward flank said:

I am assuming I am one of the people this notice is directed to. If so I would like to state that I am not here to troll. I may have different standards of what I am prepared to accept from this Club than others after supporting for 56 years. That is not meant as to say it gives me a right to be special or negative only that I am less tolerant for optimism by simply going with the status quo these days. if that has offended some people particularly our younger supporterts, I apologise generally and will personally if you think it is warranted. I will give myself a break as it is all a bit heated and people have taken and set positions. I remain a Demon faithful and doubt anyone will find a post where I criticize the players. I hope Skuit has a change of heart. 

Speaking purely as a narcissist, there are plenty of critical posters on Demonland and that's natural given the lack of success. You've been called up because you attack posters and make it needlessly personal. Let's just move forward and make it about the opinion, rather than the poster. We are all here because we love the MFC after all. 

Edited October 26, 20204 yr by A F

Look, I'm all for a more compassionate, caring and respectful community . . . but you've gotta draw the line somewhere . . .

What about umpires, Armagedon, Filth (and by extension Joffa, Didak and Eddie), Hayden Ballantyne, Duckwood, the AFL and Milne . . . surely this post doesn't apply to them?

  On 26/10/2020 at 07:09, Half forward flank said:

I am assuming I am one of the people this notice is directed to. If so I would like to state that I am not here to troll. I may have different standards of what I am prepared to accept from this Club than others after supporting for 56 years. That is not meant as to say it gives me a right to be special or negative only that I am less tolerant for optimism by simply going with the status quo these days. if that has offended some people particularly our younger supporterts, I apologise generally and will personally if you think it is warranted. I will give myself a break as it is all a bit heated and people have taken and set positions. I remain a Demon faithful and doubt anyone will find a post where I criticize the players. I hope Skuit has a change of heart. 

No need to take a break just tone the personal attacks down.

We are all [censored] frustrated about the lack of success. Your going to get all types on a forum. The sun is always shining positives petes, the negative nancys and everything in between. We don't all have to agree and we're all going to have different opinions on the best way to get there.

This forum is a place for Dees fans to chat about all aspects of the club. Just have fun and play the ball not the man.

The post wasn't solely directed at you. Every now and again we all need a reminder. In the end we're all Demons fans and we're all stuck in Hell forever.

Go Dees.

  On 26/10/2020 at 08:34, Demonland said:

We don't all have to agree and we're all going to have different opinions on the best way to get there.

And it just so happens that scientists are using scanners to try to watch the red-blue divide play out underneath the skull.

  On 26/10/2020 at 02:45, A F said:

I have rarely witnessed this problem. I've been a poster now for over a decade, but when I first came on, I didn't feel unwelcome. I think it depends on how we post.

When I first joined a few years ago I got nasty comments straight away

  On 27/10/2020 at 01:14, one_demon said:

When I first joined a few years ago I got nasty comments straight away

I really don’t believe that’s true one_demon, is it. One only needs to look back at your original posts and any responses to know the real truth. There were no “nasty comments” at all that I saw. 

Since I have been on here, I generally only find out about a new poster by the welcome they usually receive from others for their first post. I’m sorry if that didn’t happen for you. 

More and more I feel society doesn't really know how to disagree properly. There is rarely middle ground between someone disagreeing and making the other person feel terrible/That person takes it too personally and not saying anything in order to rock the boat. 

I don't know if anyone else feels this but you see it on TV and in media all the time. It's not only about not letting emotions get in the way but how do you also show someone that you respect their opinion without agreeing with it but then also not having that resulting awkwardness? There are posters on here I've discussed topics with for a while so you know there is some kind of mutual respect there but if they are people you don't know its tougher to gauge, just my 2 cents. 

  On 26/10/2020 at 07:35, Queanbeyan Demon said:

Look, I'm all for a more compassionate, caring and respectful community . . . but you've gotta draw the line somewhere . . .

What about umpires, Armagedon, Filth (and by extension Joffa, Didak and Eddie), Hayden Ballantyne, Duckwood, the AFL and Milne . . . surely this post doesn't apply to them?

Many years ago, in another life, I delivered a package to the AFL Umpires Association. I had my dog with me that day. The big fella would get a little frustrated from time to time, and was often obliged on busy days to hang on longer than was healthy for him. But he was a good boy and never soiled the van. Not once.

As you can imagine, though, when the opportunity presented itself, he'd race to the nearest grassy (knoll) area and relieve himself. Well, the house I delivered that package to had a luscious expanse of lawn out front, beautifully mown, though not in a criss-cross pattern I might note.

As I handed the package to the very trim and upright bloke in white athletic gear and wire-rimmed glasses who answered the door, I noticed him glance over my shoulder. His demeanor turned frowny. Very frowny indeed. I wheeled on my heels and there was Jack the Belgian Shepherd laying possibly the world's largest ever bow-wow baloney right in the center of the square. 

Can't remember whether I cleaned it up or not on my way out....

Edited October 27, 20204 yr by Grr-owl
Eh, added a little extra.

just saw title of this thread....  thought it must be about uncle bitters..........disappointed

  On 27/10/2020 at 03:19, Neil Crompton said:

One only needs to look back at your original posts and any responses to know the real truth. There were no “nasty comments” at all that I saw. 

 

 

I doubt you looked at every single post

I find that how you compose your own post and reply to others goes a long way towards, dare I say it, a bruise free experience on DL. Once you've gained a reputation as a fair minded cyber person on the DL community fellow posters are less likely to take offence or misconstrue what you're trying to say and more likely to give you the benefit of the doubt if they're unsure.