I'm going to deep dive on this because I think I know what you're saying and I have some experience in this area. I'm also too old now to care about what people think. I'm a sufferer of anxiety and depression and that's my lot, hopefully I'll be able to help some others like yourself in some shape or form.
Digital communication has been one of this biggest blessings around, I don't know how we would have got through lockdowns without it. However I have to say, I seriously struggle with most forms of social media. In my 20s I used facebook every moment of the day, until one day I just decided I wasn't going to look at it much anymore. The only things I use it for are for events, some news and to promote the podcast I run. Then you got the messenger apps and group chats. After a while of lockdown it was occuring to me that these things were really tiring, everything is geared up to give you a dopamine hit whether it's seeing the facebook notifications or reactions in chats. I easily get myself into a mindset that if I'm in a group chat and I've said something and no-one reacts they just 'leave you on read' then it really affects me. Some groups I'm in don't even answer questions you ask, I liken this to saying someone at a party and the other 5 friends you're with in the circle just don't say anything. I'm not saying the way I think about this is the right way but it is very tiring.
The one thing I learned about heavily relying on those platforms for communication and spending A LOT of time on them is that after a while your mind goes into that world. Everything magnifies: every word people say, every reaction, even every non comment and just times when you check and nothing is there. That platform has become your outer world.
Let's move to dear old Demonland, which I love and still believe it's the best place you'll find to talk about the Dees. However after winning a flag and having a very enjoyable season I am finding myself on here as much if not more than I've ever been. It's been good but I've been on so much lately that this world has become my outer world. I've been at the point where I talk on here more than I do to family or friends! Everything magnified and anything that happened in here was getting the bulk of my attention. Yet aside from a handful of people here most people are randoms who I've never met before. I had a harsh realisation of this just this week actually. Someone who I'd been speaking to quite a bit and I thought I was getting to know took something I said in one of the threads to them completely the wrong way and have stopped talking to me. It's a reminder that although you think you can form good connections over the internet that really you don't know each other and was the biggest lesson I've taken out of this week. That most people on DL, although probably very nice people, do not know me.
If you feel the same way lately you might feel your world has been turned upside down a bit. You may take things that happen on a site like this so seriously but be very careful. Not to sound like a father but the screen doesn't love you, your actual friends and family who know you love you.
Don't be afraid to do a digital detox. I've done it many times and did it this week as well. There's never any point being upset with what happens here or anywhere online, it's not abnormal but I'd much rather be using that stress on something actually important.
Sorry that was long winded, hope I'm on the right track.