RIP tony hogan

 

Best wishes with Jessie and the whole family through this very difficult time, 

 

Take your time to mourn and we welcome you back with open arms when you are ready 

2 hours ago, markc said:

 

I have attempted to post on this subject most of the day since I heard, anyone that knows me Knows my situation 

losing the battle is not only innevatable but comes at such a high cost to family. I still think of my wife , I still cant do certain things. I cant walk into some shops 

its been just over 5 months since i held my wifes hand as she took her last breath. I still find normal everyday things hard. Looking after our 3 young kids keeps me going

That is only just part of how hard things are , anyone that has lost a partner , family member will understand. There are many here on demonland. 

SO anyone you calling for Jesse to take a week or less off , give him time , if he needs longer let the kid have it. let him have time with his family, he has lost his dad. 

MFC will do the right thing and give him as much time as he needs , the players will support him , we as supporters should too. Until you have been through this you will never understand it . sometimes there are things bigger than football in life.

I hope a snippet of my loss will help some understand.

my thoughts and heart goes out to Jesse and family at a time of need and loss

 

mark

 

Thank you for sharing that Mark and my deepest condolences to you for your loss as well. Everyone grieves in their own time and own way, I'm sure the club and supporters will be respectful to Jesse and his family, and let him have whatever time he needs. I also tentatively hope the media will equally give him space during this time. 

Goodwin gives a club perspective of what has happened around Jesse in recent times.  http://www.foxsports.com.au/afl/teams/melbourne-demons/melbourne-coach-simon-goodwin-says-some-of-the-criticism-aimed-at-jesse-hogan-has-been-unfair/news-story/933070384a2d0ac4720f3ab93d6c1a9b  "Goodwin said he would have liked to have defended Hogan, who was criticised for uncharacteristically lashing out and striking Carlton’s Sam Rowe off the ball in their round-two clash and then photographed smoking while on the two-game ban...Obviously there’s been a bit of heat on Jesse for a number of different things over the last four or five weeks that have probably been unfair in a lot of ways with what he’s going through and what he’s dealing with".

Kudos to the club for keeping Jesse's predicament out of the media despite all the hue and cry. 

I read yesterday that Jesse had learnt of his father's critical condition in the days before the Carlton game which explained his frustration at Rowe.  I was cranky at the Carlton doctor's at the time of the MRP for the 2 weeks. If they embellished their medical report in any way I hope they have learnt their lesson and hang their heads in shame.

Given the sequence of events, Jesse's family must have come to Melbourne with him.  How hard must have Monday night been for Jesse and how proud would he have been to have his dad watching him play.  The trip across must have been physically and emotionally challenging for the family especially Tony Hogan.  It speaks volumes for their bond, support and pride in their son.  

I've been critical of Jesse's behaviour on the field, but it's so hard to judge someone who knows he is days away from losing their parent, so for that I apologise. 

Who knows what Sam Rowe said to him, maybe he had a dig about his dad? I would hope not. Regardless, I am 10 years older than Jesse and I would be an absolute mess if I lost one of my parents. I can't image how hard it must be, especially living away from them. It explains why Jesse was so torn about staying or going. Who wouldn't want to be near their family at a time like this?

I hope Jesse takes all the time and gets all the closure he needs, and I hope that footy helps him in a way to find happiness and purpose in life after this terrible event.